High Impact Christianity In A Low Impact World By Minister Speed

Prayer For High Impact Christianity In A Low Impact World

Father I come to you boldly as a son to his Father and I greet you in the name of Jesus  your son because you have said that there is none other name given under heaven whereby men must be saved except the name of Jesus.

Father I adore you and praise you because you are worthy to be praised.  You have brought me from darkness to a place of light, and redeem me out of the hand of the enemy, and for this I will give you all the glory.

Father I enter into your courts with praise and your gates with thanksgiving, and my desire is to dwell in your presence because it is there that I find strength and security.

Father I confess my sins before you, and I repent in the name and after the nature of Jesus the Messiah and I ask as a son that you hear my prayer and that this word goes to you unheeded by any demonic activity.

Father I come in the place of all my brothers and sisters who may be in trouble right now, those who don’t know your word or your will, and I intercede on their behalf and by faith cover them with the shed blood of the Holy One, Jesus the Christ .

Father as your son I submit to your will and your ways and I humbly ask that you use me as a Master would use that which belongs to him.  Conform me by any means necessary to your image and after your likeness and I will not forget to give you all the glory because you are worthy of all the praise. 

Amen and Hallelujah

This lesson comes at a time when the world is as it has never been before.  This world has progressively moved away from the will of God to a position of complete enmity against the words, will, and ways of God.

This lesson will be broken down into 3 Points.  They will instruct you on how to develop a high impact Christian lifestyle and will teach you how to cultivate that which you have developed.

Historically speaking when I speak to you of the world I will be speaking to you from the Christian understanding as given by scripture.

Webster dictionary defines The World as the globe or planet Earth, everything that exist anywhere.  The secular concerns of the Earth and its affairs i.e. a worldly person.  A system of governments, people, creatures and plant life.

These definitions are by nature designed to keep one in a state of delusion and its patterns are designed to promote a self generation of the working of the flesh producing anti-godly, anti- Christian beliefs, thoughts, and actions of which the end result is eternal death.

Throughout scripture the world is mentioned as the enemy against God and the key element which prevents us from living the high impact Christian lifestyle that Christ has called us to.

Through the Holy Spirit we have put together a definition that should help you to define the true nature of the world and enable you to see it from a godly perspective.

“The world is a system of beliefs and thinking, an ideology created by Satan to develop in mankind the self generation of sin.  This system includes anti Christian ideas involving the family, education, governments and politics, medicine, sex, marriage, the economy, races, and television”.

In other words the end of the world would not be the end of birds and trees but the end of a system.

If the world is against God then the world has lost its god…ly mind.

If that is the case then we need to come out of the world.

Please turn to the Word of God, the book of James chapter 4:4.  From this verse I will be reading from the NIV which reads “You adulterous people, don’t you know that friendship with the world is hatred toward God?  Anyone who chooses to be a friend of the world becomes an enemy of God”.

What a powerful statement from God.  The word adulterer used here comes from the Greek word Mochiea.  Literally translated it means sexual intercourse with a third party during marriage.

Throughout history and in this verse God has described His relationship with Israel and now the church as a marriage. God’s people often after entering into a marriage commitment with Him stray away to other gods and ways of worship. 

In James 4:4  He is not talking to non Christians but He point blanks calls His people who deliberately participate in the ways of the world adulterous or the mixing of pure with impure.

In our desire to develop a High impact Christian lifestyle we can now see the need to Identify the deception of the world, develop a lifestyle according to the word of God and cultivate that lifestyle into a high impact Christian life with the ability to sustain oneself through the high and low spots that are sure to come.

This message is intended to help you to develop a high impact Christian lifestyle.  It has been designed to enable you to cultivate a spiritual fitness ministry so that you may be fit for the race ahead.

I will be making points in helping you to developing this high impact Christian lifestyle.  My intent is to point you in the right direction so that you may identify the things in your daily walk that may be missing or lacking which would prevent you from the high impact lifestyle. 

Remember our goal is high impact and will require a reconditioning from the old status quo twice a week church attendance which has been the norm among many born again believers in this day.

Point 1

RENEW--- Many born again believers are so ingrain into the system of the world that even after accepting Christ there remain many strongholds which would prevent them from having the impact that God has in store for us.  

Many falsely believe that just being a Christian brings about a renewed mind but the bible clearly states that faith without works is dead or not real faith but a deluded state of mind. 

The book of James chapter 4:7 reads submits yourselves therefore to God.  Resist the devil and he will flee from you.  Many misquote this verse by just stating the “resist the devil and he will flee” part, but they unconsciously omit the beginning statement submit yourselves to God. 

There can be no understanding of the devil let alone resisting him without first submitting to God.  There can be no submitting to God without the true knowledge of His son Jesus Christ and the Principles He has set forth in His words to bring about in us a High impact lifestyle in a world gone mad.

Please turn to Roman 12:2.  This scripture give us definite insight on how we are to change our thinking so that we can develop a positive and impacting life.  It reads in the NIV, “Do not conform any longer to the pattern of this world, but be transformed by the renewing of your mind. Then you will be able to test and approve what God's will is—his good, pleasing and perfect will”.

The word of God states that “If any man be in Christ, he is a new creature: old things are passed away; behold all things are become new”.  1 Cor. 5:17

This suggests that the mind you got saved with has to change.  You can’t stay full on a steak you ate last week and the mind you possess operates on the same principles.  It needs constant feeding in the ways and word of God to properly develop.

I have listed four tools within Point 1 to help you to renew your mind. 

1. Constant reading and listening to the word of God.  This will strengthen your relationship with the Holy Spirit and increase your faith because faith comes by hearing and hearing by the word of God.

2. Those things you can change, change.  You’ve got to submit to God and consciously remove those things that you know are an offense to God and a stumbling block to your high impact lifestyle.  For me these things include the removal of all alcohol, cigarettes, night club lifestyle and also certain foods that I have completely given up for the benefit of my temple.  This is not an overnight matter but should continue for a lifetime. 

3.  As you go throughout your day remember the worlds’ main goal is to pull you in and infiltrate your mind with the simple things of the world that we take for granted.  Pause throughout your day and say simple and very short prayers that are connected to what’s going on in the now.

 4.  Find a word based church that teaches biblical Christianity.  When you find that church place yourself in a position to be of service and know that high impact and low impact are on the opposite ends of the spectrum.  The bible says be not deceived; God is not mocked: for whatsoever a man soweth, that shall he also reap.  Half measures avails us nothing.  We must become willing to be completely sold out for Jesus Christ if we are to reach our goals.

 Point 2

RESTORE--- The word restore means to return to its original or usable and functioning condition, to regenerate or return to life.  In the case of the high impact lifestyle, the definition I will use is to get or give new life or energy. 

After my mind is renew on a day to day basis of reading the word of God and marinating in the Holy Spirit of God, you will begin to develop fruits, and the gifts of the spirit begin to manifest themselves in your life.  

I am now able to be used by God, in service to my pastor and the regional church I belong to.   Oftentimes at this level we can experience burnout because while we are not dominated by this world we still have worldly obligation which pulls us often to the brink of exhaustion. 

It is often said that money, property, and prestige divert us from our primary purpose in service to Christ, those in the faith and the world about us.  For this reason we must experience new life and energy from the Father above. 

Please turn to the word of God the book of Psalm 23:1-3 KJV version.  It reads “The Lord is my shepherd I shall not want.  He maketh me to lie down in green pastures; He leads me beside the still waters.  He restores my soul. It then goes on to say He leads me in the path of righteous for His name’s sake”. 

We can see that God the Father is the restorer and all of our strength should rest in Him.  We can also read that after our soul (which is our mind, will, and emotions) is restored God leads us in the path of righteous for the furtherance of His kingdom and the name of Jesus Christ.

Restoration is God’s business but it only happens when we store up our treasure in Him and not those things of the world.  We have been commanded to be in the world and not of the world. 

When we allow Him to lead us as our shepherd then the pull of this world is but a glance to the eternity of His promises in our lives.  I now become willing to turn my will, my emotions, and my life over to God so that He can restore me so that I may continue a high impact Christian lifestyle.

Point 3

Revival—the world revival is a worn out concept in the sense that at this stage in developing a high impact Christian lifestyle, we are seeking to develop newness with Christ.  

In my new book " A Declaration to the Spiritual Soldier" I suggest that“The very word revival suggests a degradation of the very instrument which gives the church its very essence and influence.  This is the power of the Holy Spirit without which there is spiritual death.  This proves, conclusively, that if there is a dramatic need for REVIVAL in which there is a worldwide cry to God, then there must be a cataclysmic failure of the church to move, operate, and be led under the auspices of the Holy Spirit”.

Again in Revelation 21:5 KJV Jesus states behold I make all things new.  This newness cannot be redone over from the past because the word new indicates a quality that exists now that has never existed before. 

In this, the last point in developing a high impact Christian lifestyle in a low impact world, we will define a new word for a new person with a new lifestyle. 

I call this word “Newvival”.  I have define a newvivalist as high impact men and women who have been fill with new wine from the Holy Spirit in these the last days.  These men and women are completely sold out to being conform to the image and after the likeness of Jesus Christ.  As you cannot put new wine into old wineskin they are called new wineskin and are able to let go of old archaic traditions which make the word of God to no effect.

They are innovators and adapt early to different non denominational and non traditional methods of reaching souls that are lost in Christ.  They are leaders of the next church which the Holy Spirit is ushering in to reap a harvest in a world where God does not exist. 

In Closing, Saints, God is doing a new thing. Since the death of Christ, He is leaving the old and pouring out new wine (His Spirit) and using new wineskin (people). You must become willing to let go of traditions and old techniques and ways of doing things, and in this the last days, become early and creative adapters  breaking all traditions and in the way Gods’ word is delivered.     

Selah

Teen Terminology, Parental Disillusionment, and the Power of Words

I will be writing a series of blogs to inform parents concerning the destructive state of teenagers, subliminal suggestion from the media, and strategies that Satan is using to destroy our people.   With the educational system producing catastrophic failures and drug usage (witchcraft) rampant even the most timid teen has a very difficult time maneuvering through life.  Today I will be discussing the term “Swagger” or commonly known as “Swag.” 

Webster dictionary defines the term swag- as a (Verb) to walk as if unable to control one’s movement, to sway heavily or unsteadily.

In another sense it means- To act in an arrogant, overly self-assured, or conceited manner, to walk with a lofty proud gait often in an attempt to impress others.

Of course swagger has been used as a noun to mean “braggadocio” since long before, and “”it has been a term of art in rap since at least the early ’90s. Sadat X of Brand Nubian used the word on “Slow Down” from One for All (1990)—albeit referring, more traditionally, to a strut—and later described a “kid with mouth swagger” on the hit “Punks Jump Up to Get Beat Down “from In God We Trust (1993).

Jay-Z started bringing the “swag” in 2003, but it wasn’t until 2007 that the word started to catch on. Up-and-comer Soulja Boy, just 17 at the time, was the first rapper to really fall for swag. “She likes my swag,” he brags repeatedly on “She Thirsty,” from his debut album Souljaboytellem.com. On “Swag,” an early Soulja song that's available on YouTube but appears never to have been released, he repeats the word over 100 times.

I write this because the term and its ugly connotation have reached into the halls of most homes with the average teenager “acting” as if they are small denizens of the rap and video game world.   The demonic forces that produced this type of mentality is prevalent in the USA and is a product of a possession that has taken even the parents over the edge.

To associate with such a personality and attempt to live up to it suggest the opening of spiritual forces which move upon and to the 3rd and 4th generation of children.  Parents you are the first and last line of defense.  What you do comes down upon the children 10 fold.

The bible is very clear concerning “ourselves” John 15:5 said, “I am the vine; you are the branches. Whoever abides in me and I in him, he it is that bears much fruit, for apart from me you can do nothing.” Then in Matthew 16:24-25 Jesus told his disciples, “If anyone would come after me, let him deny himself and take up his cross and follow me. For whoever would save his life will lose it, but whoever loses his life for my sake will find it.”

Paul told us in Phil. 3:3 “For we are the circumcision, which worship God in the spirit, and rejoice in Christ Jesus, and have no confidence in the flesh.” He also said in Roman 7:18 KJV “For I know, that in me (that is, in my flesh) dwelleth no good thing. For to will is present with me: but how to perform that which is good, I find not.”

 You see my brothers and sisters if you understand English you will realize that the saying “believe in yourself” is more than a statement of self-confidence but a belief or faith, In other words, a religious statement. It is disguised as a statement of self-confidence so that it is accepted globally as a means to liberate people from low self-confidence but ultimately when the whole world has accepted it, it will be totally exposed as an Antichrist religious statement. This has also been disguised in globally popular talk shows such as Oprah as “the triumph of human spirit” , sang by R Kelly in "I believe I can fly", expressed by Whitney Huston in "The greatest love of all" and popularized in a South African youth program called "love life" and many other motivational books.

WE did not make ourselves nor for our own purpose or glory. A human being’s full potential can only be realized when He connects with the Heavenly Father, God, maker of mankind who knows every part of their being. Even if hypothetically speaking we were to supposedly say the statement, “believe in yourself” was about self-confidence, true Christianity does not promote self-confidence but GOD confidence. Meaning you must have confidence yes great confidence in that Christ is with you and THROUGH HIM and HIS power within you greatness can be achieved. Through you God can do great things. In these last days Christians need to be very careful as the bible tells us that even the very elect may be deceived.

If you are a believer and followers of Christ here are a few selfish and self-centered ideologies that are being tossed around, and are the spirit of Antichrist. 

Many over 40 grown women walk around calling themselves terms like:

Diva – A distinguish female opera singer with a temperamental and haughty attitude who divides the house with her Prima Donna attitude often resulting in the failure of her enterprise.

Goddess – A term used to describe a female who is independent and supposedly strong willed.  When asked who and what she is independent of/from, she will say from “needing” a man, but we will see the truth later.

When Lucifer deceived Eve in the garden the bible states that the woman brought “certain” consequences upon herself as a result of her deception from Satan and subsequent sin.  It reads Gen. 3:16 Unto the woman he said, I will greatly multiply thy sorrow and thy conception; in sorrow thou shalt bring forth children; and thy desire shall be to thy husband, and he shall rule over thee.

Women empowerment has taken on the most anti godly ideas here in America with Abortion, divorce, and enmity between men and women being the trade off.  I will deal with the men on another level at another time.  

The term goddess is once again a deceptive ideology which comes from the Satanic idea that someone can usurp the power and majesty of God and be as God.  This “Independent” spirit is what caused the separation and failure against God in the first place.

B..ch – Yes the third and final term is a word used to describe a female dog, yet most women open declare that they are a b..ch and of course they openly request that spirit to fall down upon them.

This was a short blog written to open the mind not to disrespect.  I think this is a self-imposed reality.  Ignorance of Gods’ Law is no excuse.  The result of the disobedience and rebellion from the parents is that our personal lives have become spiritual war zones.  Most people are ignorant of the war raging around us.

This blog dealt with terms referring to women but there are just as many dealing with men.  The fact is women are the garden which carries the seed of man to childbirth.  The simple fact is most American households have a single parent.  This is the woman. 

In closing it is said in Scriptures that the power of life and death is in the tongue.  You become what you call your- self.

The bible says in Proverbs 22”1 – A good name is better than great riches and good favor is above silver and gold.

Try calling yourself “Man/Woman of God”.

Please refer to my blogs entitled " Seducing Spirits & Subliminal messages for more content.

Tribulation and The Church By Minister Speed

What is the Tribulation? 

Is the tribulation what Jesus spoke about when He said, “For then there will be great distress, unequaled from the beginning of the world until now–and never to be equaled again” (Matthew 24:21)?  Is this also the time that Daniel prophesied about in Daniel 12:1 writing, “At that time Michael, the great prince who protects your people, will arise. There will be a time of distress [tribulation] such as has not happened from the beginning of nations until then. But at that time your people–everyone whose name is found written in the book–will be delivered? “ Can we read Joel 2:2 and say it was “a day of darkness and gloom, a day of clouds and blackness. Like dawn spreading across the mountains a large and mighty army comes, such as never was of old nor ever will be in ages to come” that predicted this day of tribulation?

Many Bible scholars believe that the tribulation is a time of great distress that occurs just prior to the return of Christ.  The majority of Christians have been taught that they will escape this day of the wrath of God in what is called the rapture.  The tribulation is when the wrath of God is poured out on a world that has rejected God for so long. They loved a lie over the truth and have grown more and more wicked over time.  God was patient for so long but even God’s patience comes to an end when humans, like at the time of Noah, only thought of ways that were evil continually.  There is some good in humans yes, but apart from the Holy Spirit of God, there is no real good in humans because even our good works are like filthy rags before God (Isaiah 64:6).

The events described in many places in the Bible give a horrific view of what will be taking place on the earth at this time.  It is important to understand when you read about the tribulation in Matthew 24 and in Revelation, that the Book of Revelation is not written in exact chronological order.  When you understand that, the book will make a lot more sense to you.  Revelation 16:18 gives a brief glimpse of just how awful it will be for the residents of earth at that time because “Then there came flashes of lightning, rumblings, peals of thunder and a severe earthquake. No earthquake like it has ever occurred since man has been on earth, so tremendous was the quake.”  Jesus gave an excellent description of what the tribulation will be like in the Olivet Prophecy in Matthew 24 and 25. The disciples had just asked Jesus “what will be the sign of your coming and of the end of the age” (Matthew 24:3)? The so-called “end of the age” is the time just prior to Jesus’ Second coming, when literally, all hell will break lose.  In Matthew 24 Jesus says, “You will hear of wars and rumors of wars, but see to it that you are not alarmed. Such things must happen, but the end is still to come.  Nation will rise against nation, and kingdom against kingdom. There will be famines and earthquakes in various places.  All these are the beginning of birth pains” (v 6-8). 

Jesus says, “You will be handed over to be persecuted and put to death, and you will be hated by all nations because of me. At that time many will turn away from the faith and will betray and hate each other, and many false prophets will appear and deceive many people. Because of the increase of wickedness, the love of most will grow cold” (v 9-12). In fact, “It will be so bad that “If those days had not been cut short, no one would survive, but for the sake of the elect those days will be shortened” (V 22).

Then we begin to see nature itself begin to show signs unraveling because, “Immediately after the distress of those days “‘the sun will be darkened, and the moon will not give its light; the stars will fall from the sky, and the heavenly bodies will be shaken” (Matthew 24:29).  Could this blotting out of the sunlight and moon and the stars being hidden by the clouds be the result of nuclear fallout or from gigantic volcanic eruptions and fissures of the earth opened up by such titanic earthquakes that the world has never seen to date (Revelation 16:18, Matthew 24:8)?

Will Christians Go Through the Tribulation?

God has not appointed His wrath to be poured out on believers because His wrath has been satisfied for they have placed their trust in Christ and Jesus’ took the wrath of God for us.  As a result, the wrath of God that is to be poured out on the unrepentant and unregenerate world will be unlike anything that the world has ever seen (Matthew 24:21).  There are said to be many who will be saved during the tribulation as we read in Revelation 7:14, “These are they who have come out of the great tribulation; they have washed their robes and made them white in the blood of the Lamb.”  Those who will be saved in the tribulation will have to pay with their lives as it says in Revelation 20:4, when the Apostle John “saw thrones on which were seated those who had been given authority to judge. And I saw the souls of those who had been beheaded because of their testimony about Jesus and because of the word of God. They had not worshiped the beast or its image and had not received its mark on their foreheads or their hands. They came to life and reigned with Christ a thousand years.”

Most biblical scholars say that Christians will not go through the tribulation but the tribulation will make many martyrs become Christians but they will have to pay the price of their life.  Christians are to escape this tribulation period by what is called the rapture (1 Thessalonians 4:17) however many who believe they are saved will actually find out they are not (Matthew 7:22-23). 

Things really turn horribly bad when the Seventh Seal is released and an angel takes a fire-filled censor and casts it down to earth (Revelation 8:5) because this causes “peals of thunder, rumblings, flashes of lightning and an earthquake.”  When the Seventh Seal is opened, the seven angels blast seven trumpet blasts, each with a fierce and mighty judgment for the earth’s occupants. In Revelation 8:7-12 we see what happens when the first angel sounds his trumpet:

“And there came hail and fire mixed with blood, and it was hurled down on the earth. A third of the earth was burned up, a third of the trees were burned up, and all the green grass was burned up.

The second angel sounded his trumpet, and something like a huge mountain, all ablaze, was thrown into the sea. A third of the sea turned into blood, a third of the living creatures in the sea died, and a third of the ships were destroyed.

The third angel sounded his trumpet, and a great star, blazing like a torch, fell from the sky on a third of the rivers and on the springs of water the name of the star is Wormwood. A third of the waters turned bitter, and many people died from the waters that had become bitter.

The fourth angel sounded his trumpet, and a third of the sun was struck, a third of the moon, and a third of the stars, so that a third of them turned dark. A third of the day was without light, and also a third of the night.”

When the fifth angel blows his trumpet John “saw a star that had fallen from the sky to the earth. The star was given the key to the shaft of the Abyss. When he opened the Abyss, smoke rose from it like the smoke from a gigantic furnace. The sun and sky were darkened by the smoke from the Abyss. And out of the smoke locusts came down on the earth and were given power like that of scorpions of the earth.  They were told not to harm the grass of the earth or any plant or tree, but only those people who did not have the seal of God on their foreheads. They were not allowed to kill them but only to torture them for five months. And the agony they suffered was like that of the sting of a scorpion when it strikes. During those days people will seek death but will not find it; they will long to die, but death will elude them” (Revelation 9:1-6).  What these “scorpions” are we can only imagine.  And for those who “seek death but will not find it” for “they will long to die, but death will elude them” reveals that the suffering is so great that people will want to kill themselves to end their suffering but will be unable to do so.

It is so bad that beast like locusts “had tails with stingers, like scorpions, and in their tails they had power to torment people for five months. They had as king over them the angel of the Abyss, whose name in Hebrew is Abaddon and in Greek is Apollyon [that is, Destroyer] (Revelation 9:10-11). The hearts of the unsaved will be so hardened by this time that God has to send beasts where, “The heads of the horses resembled the heads of lions, and out of their mouths came fire, smoke and sulfur. A third of mankind was killed by the three plagues of fire, smoke and sulfur that came out of their mouths.  The power of the horses was in their mouths and in their tails; for their tails were like snakes, having heads with which they inflict injury. The rest of mankind who were not killed by these plagues still did not repent of the work of their hands; they did not stop worshiping demons,) and idols of gold, silver, bronze, stone and wood—idols that cannot see or hear or walk. Nor did they repent of their murders, their magic arts, their sexual immorality or their thefts” (Revelation 9:17-21).

Amazingly, through all of this, mankind doesn’t repent. If this sounds like a nightmare, it is worse than any you could ever imagine, dream, or invent.

When is the Tribulation?

No one can say when the tribulation will start with exactness because no one knows the moment of Christ’s return (Matthew 24:36).  We are to always be ready because He will come like a thief in the night and when no one really expects Him (Matthew 24:43-44).  Many will take His return for granted, not believe in Him, and will pay with their lives for that because when He does return, it will be too late to repent from their sins and confess them to Him (Matthew 24:50-51).  Since no one knows the exact moment of Jesus’ return, we need to place our trust in Christ today and understand that God has not appointed His wrath and righteous indignation on believers (1 Thessalonians 5:9) because He Who knew no sin was made sin for us (2 Corinthians 5:21).  If you have not yet believed in the Son of God, I beg you to consider it today, while it is still called today (2 Corinthians 6:2). 

Tomorrow may be too late.

Forgiveness By Minister Speed

All of us living and breathing have experienced some very troublesome episodes in our lives. As an African American, I personally have either experienced some very hurtful things first hand, or had a very up-close view of others go through some very hurtful things. Bitterness is a choice, just like forgiveness and love.

I truly believe that one's ability to properly assess and handle "harsh" experiences stems from their spiritual foundation.

Though I am a Christian, I have in times past struggled with the root of bitterness, and I did so for many years until I realized that I was the one in bondage. As a result all of my blessings and gifts were being held captive and in hostage.

While these other people, who'd hurt me, some intentionally and some by accident, were still living their lives. When you don't forgive someone, it is just like carrying around a dead body, with it being attached to your very own.

Can you imagine the stench, the smell, the public perception that others have, from watching someone walk around with a dead body on their living body? Now, take a minute and imagine it being a multiple number of dead bodies? 

Eventually the decaying flesh from the body or bodies begins to be saturated into your own skin, which eventually enters the blood stream, and affects every vital organ in your own body? Now to anybody with any amount of intelligence, that would be crazy and scary to watch someone walk around like that.

Out of love and deep concern for the person doing this, I personally would approach them and ask some serious questions, in hopes that it will make them see the insanity attached to what they're doing and how they are "living".

The root of bitterness must be dealt with by the individual.

This of course is going to require a lot on honesty with one self. Something that I'm finding now a days isn't popular. People actually would rather deflect it off on others, so that their nasty side isn't seen. Choosing avoidance and no interaction with certain people because of their need to feel validated.

It really is a sad reality for that individual because they are in such a state of bondage and it feels better to be able to not deal with themselves.

Oftentimes prayer really is the only thing that you can do for these kind. They are the kind who attract the wrong kind of people to themselves, end up being or feeling victimized, and then turning around to validate why they are bitter. Many people miss out on rare chances of happiness because of this very deep seated issue. 

Many people choose to remain bitter, even once apologies are offered from others who have possibly "grazed" an area of sensitivity. It's not the apology that these bitter people are really after. It is the feeling of power and control. Even if it puts them on the negative end of spiritual and life energies. Having the feeling and fulfillment of power and control doesn't have to come as a result of holding others hostage. It isn't fair or rational either to make everyone else pay for what someone else has done.

If you are finding it difficult to automatically give people a clean slate, upon first meeting them and getting to know them, then you are bitter. If someone you've known for a long time has apologized for something they did or said wrong, and they have not repeated the offense, then you are bitter. If you can't seem to form healthy new relationship with new people, without bringing up the past, then you are bitter. 

If you can't let go of offense after a certain amount of time, then you are bitter. Deal with it! Before it deal with you, by manifesting itself in your health, finances, emotions, home, job, marriage, and other relationships and activities. Cancer, diabetes, migraines, insomnia, muscular disorders, blood disorders, and heart attacks; all of these can and often are the result of bitterness.

Ask yourself, is bitterness worth having this much power and control over my life, my mind, my will, my emotions, and anything else that I place a great deal of value upon. And most importantly, is it worth your time. That is something given to us as a gift from God. And since when have we become greater than God, and can steal and rob His time, to be bitter with His creations? 

Have a blessed day.